Interracial Couple Confessions
My question is this I like this guy (wm) & I'm a blk girl. It's this guy that I've been liking for a little over a while. This past Sunday night I built up the courage to IM chat FB. All I said "hi" & he "seen" the message bt he didnt replied back. My thoughts are maybe he's not interested the next day he came up to my job. I seen him bt he didnt see me. Do you think I should've spoken to him instead of not speaking to him at all? I don't want to send him another message & get rejected twice. 😔

Maybe he would appreciate you approaching him in person or he may not be interested. I can’t answer that for you because only he knows. Your best bet is to ask him. Goodluck!

I'm a 25 yr old white college student and I am dating a 23 yr old black man. We get along so well & are so alike it's crazy. But he has an 8 week old son with a girl he has been dating on and off for 4 years. He still lives with her bc he can't afford to live on his own and the baby mama always tells me they're working on getting back together and she's in love with him, but he tells me he can't stand her and does not want to work things out.. I have trust issues but I try and trust him.. Help?

This sounds like a lot of drama, I can’t tell you want to do in this situation just before you make any decisions you should ask yourself if it’s worth it.

So there is this cute white guy in my class that I am so into. I know he has no problem with interracial relationships, but I don't know if he would necessarily want to date a black chick. I always chicken out when I want to talk to him. What do you think I should I do?
Anonymous

You just have to be fed up with chickening out, it’s hard but you’ll be so proud of yourself if you confront him and let him know how you feel. You never know until you try. Goodluck!

Hey! I'm a high school sophomore and I've been talking this guy for the past few weeks. I know he wants to ask me out soon and I want him to, but there are a few things that worry me. I'm full Puerto Rican and my parents are very critical about who I date. The guy I'm talking to is black. He's a junior, extremely smart, sweet and talented. We like each other a lot. I don't want my family or friends to criticize our relationship. How can I deal with the criticism that I know will be coming at us?
Anonymous

Maturely, whenever someone approaches you with some sort of criticism simply let them know that he makes you happy. Either they will appreciate him for how he makes you feel or they will have to learn that lesson over time. 

I'm a 17 year old white guy and I went to my friends party and it was close friends and mutual friends invited. I saw this beautiful, beautiful black girl and I'm normally confident with talking to girls but she intimidated me, in a good way. Anyway, I asked my friend about her and asked my friend introduced me to her and my heart leaped out of my chest. I just wanted to ask, how can I tell her how I feel? I heard that her brother doesn't do the whole interracial dating?
Anonymous

The possibility of family members being weary is always something you may encounter when it comes to interracial dating. The advice I always give is to just go for it. You’ll never know how things could turn out unless you talk to her. Goodluck!

I'm an African American girl with a BIG butt and the white guys like me but not as much as a girlfriend they are serious about. They only seriously like the white girls how do I get them to like me more than the white girls. How can I get them more focused on me and not just my butt?

You don’t want the attention of those men, if you have to change something about yourself in order to get a guy to notice you he isn’t even worth your time. Regardless of a mans skin color you first and foremost should expect him to like you for who you are.

(1/2) I'm a black and engaged to a white man. At our rehearsal dinner last weekend, my groom's grandfather told me that "as far as niggers go, ______ couldn't have done much better." I was so hurt that I had to disappear for an hour. I still haven't
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(2/2) told my fiance about it, because I don't want to cause problems, but he can tell something's wrong. I really don't want that man at our wedding. This isn't the first time he's made a racial remark, just the first time he's called me a nigger.
Anonymous

You should feel comfortable enough to share this with your fiance, if it’s troubling you it’s important.

(26) Caribbean British girl cont... I know that all white men aren't the same I know that all White British men aren't the same BUT I just can't shake the feeling that behind every heated look from a WM is his condition of Negrophilia- the love of all things black. It's stupid and uneducated to think so but it's in my mind. Perhaps I am out of sync with the times. I was right to kick him to the curve and get the hell out of there RIGHT!?
Anonymous

You have a right to separate yourself from anything that makes you uncomfortable

HI Lovely, I have a scenario to share, I am a Caribbean British woman (26) who if asked will date outside my race. I was asked out by a (30) White British guy who was charming at first glance. So gave my number, we exchange chats and shit and we eventually agreed on a first date. Met him and in the middle of the date I asked him, " why me?" He replied "I have a condition call NEGROPHILIA" I was not impress, since then I can't shake the feelin most wm are like this and I can't look at wm the same
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You're advice sucks. Asking someone directly is very difficult, you could end up humiliating yourself. If you know what I mean.
Anonymous

You’re right! Try using pixie dust next time! Honey the best way to tell a person that you have feelings for them is to tell them. Running the risk of humiliation is something that coincides with being direct with someone. Now you can be creative as to how you tell them but that’s up to the individual. My advice is my advice. Don’t like it? Ignore it.

Anon questionhello! I had a question. I’m white and have a hispanic boyfriend who never really identified with his race much. Maybe a few spanish words here and there but honestly I probably know more spanish than he does lol I noticed once we moved to another city hours away that is predomently Hispanic, hes kind of changed his behavior. Its almost like hes changed who he is to suit his surroundings. I understand that some of this might be a natural human behavior but its hurtful that he starts listening to diffrent music to attract people from around here and to get noticed by them. I know that he loves to get attention but I feel that he us changing himself and “acting” more hispanic than he is and is wanting the attention of the hispanic girls here more than anything. I can give a examole if you need. please tell me what you think. Its annoying and hurtful.

My answer: I would answer this privately but you’re on anon so I can’t. What exactly is “acting Hispanic?” It seems to me that you believe the stereotypes that are associated with being Hispanic which in no way shape or form is ok. I can’t speak about Hispanic experiences because I myself am not Hispanic. But it seems to me that he is identifying with people within is own race now and that is annoying and hurting you??? You might need to take a step back and ask yourself why you are so annoyed by this.